Training the Touch

They say men are visual and women are sensitive to smell and touch. Now, I’m sure about my part of that story. If my girlfriend is wearing a low cleavage or if she surprises me in the bedroom with some lingerie, I get immediately turned on. I won’t deny it. However, even though she likes me wearing this or that cologne, when it comes to touch, it just doesn’t work for her. So, I had to find a way for training the touch.

At first, of course, I thought it was a matter of technique. None of her previous partners had my skills. That’s why she didn’t feel anything when I touched her. That was very healthy for my ego, but, after several attempts, I had to admit that it was not a matter of how skilled I was. I tried everything: there was no spot I didn’t kiss, no zone of her skin that I didn’t caress. It just didn’t work!

One day, completely by accident, I took off a scarf from her shoulders a little bit roughly. To my surprise, she said she liked it. So, we began to do some experiments. In the end, we were both astonished! The jute rope produced a delicious effect on her skin. She finally felt something that she liked!

Next day, we bought some items online, and, as soon as they arrived, we started testing every fabric, rope, and material we had asked for. Definitely, her skin enjoyed the friction of jute rope. “It’s as if a snake passed through my skin, and I love it”, she said. By the time I had finished passing the rope through her body, she was totally turned on. And I mean it! Finally, she had found her sense of touch!

We’ve been learning Shibari for six months. That is, we’ve been training the touch. I’m no master rigger, of course. But I know enough to make her feel good with my ropes. And, for me, that’s the most important.

This is our Shibari story.