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Shibari as a Problem Solver

My wife and I are the kind of couple that doesn’t talk. That is, we talk everyday, of course, but when it comes to having an argument, we both avoid the discussion. That is not good, of course, and we end up having ugly fights because we kept quiet to avoid what would have been…
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Wabi-Sabi

Wabi-Sabi is an aesthetic concept, which provides a measure of how distant Western and Eastern thought can sometimes be. While Western thought considers symmetry, proportion, and, above all, perfection, as the essential ingredients of beauty, Wabi-Sabi is an appreciation of beauty that is imperfect, impermanent, and incomplete. Wabi-Sabi is very important in Shibari and Bondage.…
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Wari

Wari is an intuition of the most appropriate element for a specific situation in a bondage scene. As Kinbaku master Nureki says: “So many women, so many ways of Kinbaku”. This means that a rigger should never act unimaginatively, according to a formula. Rather, he must look for the one most appropriate element to include…
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Ganjigarame

Ganjigarame is a Shibari technique. Although it may present several variations, it essentially consists in tying a person from head to foot. As you can infer, it is a complex technique, which takes time and requires additional safety measures. Ganjigarame aims for total restraint. It can be the basis for an intense scene. It is…
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Chokyo

Chokyo originally meant the training of an animal. Since it involves punishment, it should be understood in the sense of the metaphorical breaking of an animal. That is, the breaking of its will. We can think of chokyo as the reason behind a beast used for farming purposes not making an effort to break free.…
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Kinbakushi

Japanese rope bondage started with Hojojutsu, which is a military form of torture, humiliation, and restraint. Hojojutsu evolved into Shibari, which is the art of rope bondage for aesthetic purposes. Kinbaku, on the other hand, is more directly connected to sexuality, although it doesn’t always end up with sexual intercourse. In any case, it can…
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SSC

SSC stands for Safe, Sane, and Consensual. Those three words sum up the ethics of Shibari. Even though there are still many people who think according to the old taboo, for which Shibari in particular and BDSM in general is a perversion, that is, a sick and inadmissible deviation of sexuality, bondage practices become more…
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Living Portrait

It all started in a quite usual manner. A rich woman is about to turn fifty and she wants a portrait of herself so she can unveil it at the party she’s gonna throw at her mansion to celebrate her first half a century of life. They called me, a painter. Now, I’m supposed to…
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Shibari and Sexual Tension

It happened when we were kids. it’s not unusual, actually. You would be amazed at how many people discovered their taste for bondage at an early age. Mike was 14 and I was 12. We saw a “bad guy” in some silly cartoon tying the hero and we decided we should try it out. We…
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Living Sculptures

I don’t know exactly whose idea it was. But it is clear that we all liked it from the start. We are all part of the bondage community, so, for us, discussing ropes and knots is as normal as another group of women talking about crochet, cooking, or books. Little did I know we would…
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