How to Practice Shibari
Shibari is a BDSM practice, also known as Japanese Rope Bondage or Kinbaku, which means tying. It is a sexual practice which provides a great opportunity for healthy communication, trust, and spice with your partner, or a better self-awareness if you do it without a partner.
Shibari began as a military restraint technique, but it soon evolved into a living art, due to its aesthetic value and its sensuality. Moreover, it is also good for improving communication among couples and expressing emotions.
If you are considering trying Shibari, these are some basic steps. First, digest all the info you can before you start with rope. It is important for you to know about the rope, safety, consent, risks, trust, and communication. Likewise, you need a basic knowledge of anatomy. I would recommend searching for articles, videos, tutorials, and books. As for live practice, workshops and online courses are necessary. This way, you and your partner will know what you are doing.
After learning about Shibari, I would recommend finding a teacher that aligns with your values. As I have said before, there are many ways to learn Shibari, but when looking for a teacher or studio, it is important to check that the instructor values match your own, that you trust him and that you have similar thoughts or ideas about what you want to learn.
Once you have learned about shibari with a teacher, it is important to go slowly, practicing Shibari requires practice and years of education, don’t try to make suspension on the 3rd Shibari scene you’re having. Becoming a Shibari expert requires time and knowledge, and doing suspensions involve great risks, so it is better to do it slowly, and take your time until you are able to make a suspension, always making sure you won’t risk your partner.
And finally, it is important to practice with people you trust and who trust you. It is important to trust your partner and to have an honest conversation about desires, boundaries, and consent, so the scene can come out successfully.
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