Controlling a scene is easy, right? You just have to be as hot as you can, and enjoy the intense emotional exchange between you and your partner, and that’s it. Wrong! Controlling a bondage scene is something serious that demands several capabilities from all participants involved.
First of all, you have to distinguish the personal aspect of the scene from its technical aspect. In other words, while there are feelings and communication between you and your partner, there is also a task to be done. You can’t focus only on the ropes. That would turn the scene into some sort of workout session. On the other hand, you can’t focus only on the emotional exchange with your partner. That would increase the risk of an emergency. And bondage can be very dangerous. The key is to pay attention to both aspects. In the end, they are the two sides of the same coin. It’s not easy, but you can do it.
Becoming a control freak is one of the best ways to ruin a bondage scene. Shibari is an artistic activity. So, you can’t expect everything to come out exactly as planned. However, you can’t leave everything to spontaneity and inspiration, either. The balance between the necessary planning and the also necessary room for improvisation is not an easy one. But it’s something you have to do if you want your scene to succeed.
The scene is not only the scene. This sounds absurd, so here goes the explanation. A scene is done within an environment. Whether it is a Shibari studio, a nice place outdoors, or your own home, you have to take that environment into consideration for the success of the scene. For example, in a studio, there are probably other riggers who can help if something goes wrong. A home environment, on the other hand, is the most comfortable for participants. Take some time to think about this.
Controlling a scene is not easy. But, if you know and understand its key points, you’ll do it well.