Shibari Seasons

I’m a mature woman now. There’s no point in denying it. And I don’t complain. I’ve had a happy life. Maybe not from someone else’s point of view, but who cares about anybody else’s opinion about one’s life? Yet, there is pain in growing older. You lose friends, dreams, skills. It’s not easy. Of course, there are also accomplishments, joys, unforgettable memories that you will treasure forever. And the beauty of life, I believe, is in the balance of all these things. That’s why I did the “Shibari Seasons” scene.

I wanted to express this for my birthday. That is, I didn’t want it to be simply another party, maybe bigger, maybe louder, but, in the end, just another party. I wanted to do something special.

That’s when I remembered that I’ve always loved Shibari. I saw an exposition once in an art gallery, and I found it fascinating. Of course, many people will never understand the beauty of a tied body, the exquisite shapes, the intense feelings, the motion captured within. Since then, I’ve never wasted an opportunity to appreciate this art of bondage. And, fortunately, every time there are more places where you can contemplate and experience Shibari.

I hired a rope artist and I told him what I wanted to do. We decided to do a series of scenes called “Seasons.” In each one, I would express a different part of my life: childhood, adolescence, adulthood, maturity. The idea was to convey each one with its own emotions, so that my friends and family could glimpse at how I had crossed through each stage of my life. We filmed each scene very professionally, and then edited a video, which I would show to all my guests at the party. We worked for days to get the necessary material for a 15-minute video. But it was time well spent.

It was a complete success! I was able to tell others, without words, how happy I had been as a child, how much I had struggled as a teenager to find my own voice and my own way, how I had become the master of my own time going in my own chosen direction as an adult, and how I felt a little more tired but a lot wiser in my maturity, which is just starting.

Shibari is truly an art form, and it is open for everyone willing to work hard and take the risk. My “Shibari Seasons” were a complete success.

This is my Shibari story.