You might have heard of the BDSM community, the bondage community, and so forth. This word, “community”, not only makes reference to a group of people, but it is a wider concept that includes emotional and psychological factors. In this article, we discuss the importance of a sense of community among Shibari lovers.
In its first definition, the Oxford Dictionary provides us with a general concept of what a community is: “a group of people living in the same place or having a particular characteristic in common.” Anyone can see, then, that when we talk about the bondage community, we’re talking about a group of people whose common characteristic is their taste for rope games.
However, it is the second definition that really provides insight into what a community really is. The Oxford Dictionary says it is “a feeling of fellowship with others as a result of sharing common attitudes, interests, and goals.” As we can see, the key word here is “fellowship”. By breaking with mainstream conventions, kinky people lose fellowship with ordinary people. This can lead to a feeling of loneliness and a lack of understanding from other people. It’s like being an adolescent all over again.
That’s why it is so important to find people who share “common attitudes, interests, and goals”, as the definition says. Having the opportunity to meet and talk with people who are alike provides a feeling of wellbeing. It also works as a great psychological relief. This is especially important when we consider that there are still many prejudices against kink.
So, the next time you find a fellow kinkster, try to spend some time sharing your thoughts and feelings. This will be beneficial for both of you since it strengthens the sense of community among kinky people.
And that’s why a sense of community is so important for bondage lovers.