Zadist Hkm, one of the members of the “Free the Kink” Facebook group, posted a text about trauma and kink. As any practitioner knows, there are several, intense psychological factors involved in bondage and all other kinks. Though brief, Zadist’s post is full of insight. For him, trauma is an altered perception of ourselves. “This…
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I love Michael, so I had to tell him my secret. We had been dating for six months and things were getting serious between us. I really wanted us to grow closer, but I realized that, if I wasn’t totally honest with him, it would all end up in disaster. Little did I know that,…
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I am an artist. For me, that means to be someone who creates metaphors of life. In other words, I create lies that tell the truth. Some artists use words or sounds, I use ropes. For me, a bondage scene is a statement about chaos, order, and Shibari. Let me explain. Rope by itself is…
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I’m an actor. That means I have to be many different people beside myself. And it’s no metaphor. Somehow, I have to transform myself into a different person. Sometimes, I have to turn myself into someone completely unlike me. There are many ways of achieving this goal. You’ve probably heard about the Method, and all…
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There is a strong psychological dimension of Shibari. Any bondage enthusiast knows, from firsthand experience, about the emotional connection and the power dynamic involved in a scene. However, there is a less explored psychological aspect of Shibari; actually two. Impulsion, compulsion, and Shibari are related to each other. Read the article to find out how.…
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Many kink people think of it as a realm for freedom, spontaneity and self-pampering. So, a concept like “discipline” sounds quite incompatible with kink. And yet, Shibari shows us that discipline and game, discipline and joy, and discipline and improvisation are not contradictory terms. This, of course, is quite common in the Japanese culture, which…
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First of all, a disclaimer. If you suffer severe anxiety symptoms, you should seek professional help. These include phobias, obsessive thoughts, compulsive behavior, and/or panic attacks. Shibari, as any other non-medical therapy, can only help with the handling of mild symptoms. It is in no way a substitute for the necessary medication. Using Shibari to…
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During lockdown, many people discovered anxiety. Anxiety is a psychological condition in which a person experiences intense fear. This fear can have a very specific cause or it can be a generalized feeling. Among the most common fears is that of not being able to get out of a certain place or not being able…
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Untying myself won’t be easy. I‘m stuck. Moreover, I can’t move. Time goes by and every second is running against me. Either I find the strength to release myself or I’m doomed. Now, if I let panic take hold of me, I won’t be able to think clearly. And I need to think. So, I…
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