Sexual coercion is a term that refers to sexual activity that is done under pressure, blackmail, deceit, or manipulation. Its purpose is making the victim agree (apparently in a free manner) to perform acts that they actually don’t want to perform. Let’s take a moment to digest this definition. Blackmail is easy to identify because…
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Originally, “aesthetic” was a philosophical term with quite a complex meaning. However, many people are using it right now to refer to something that is beautiful, especially on social media. It is important to know this because some people praise a Shibari scene when they see it by saying that it looks aesthetic. In the…
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In the book “A Steampunk’s Guide to Sex”, KC Crowell contributes a chapter entitled “How to Deel with, and Not Be, a Creep”. In a few pages, she offers great advice. So, we’ve decided to quote extensively from her text, in order to avoid uncomfortable situations for our readers. KC Crowell studied journalism and philosophy…
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The building of an identity is one of the main concerns in today’s society. Most people believe that everyone has the right to develop their own personality the way they want. How does Shibari come into the picture? Well, there’s a stronger relationship between Shibari and identity than you think. First of all, Shibari can…
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It’s not unusual for participants in a Shibari scene—especially tops—to reach a point of euphoria. Psychological literature defines it as a state of extreme happiness and an elevated sense of well-being. This, in itself, is not bad. Actually, we spend most of our lives striving to reach such a state. Feeling good and powerful, transcending…
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Nowadays, it is common to think of ourselves as limitless beings. We believe we can achieve any goal we set for ourselves. We see ourselves as unstoppable. However, there are physical and logical limits to what we can do. Moreover, each person works within a psychological frame, and this means that, for every activity we…
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Acceptance is not easy. We tend to believe that we accept ourselves, each other, and the world we live in. However, if we begin to question our relationship to ourselves, the others, and the environment we live in, we will see that things get complicated. Self-acceptance begins with the acceptance of your own body. This…
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People usually understand vulnerability as the possibility of being hurt or overpowered. So, for example, we say that a place is vulnerable when there are evident ways of trespassing. Likewise, we say of a person that they are vulnerable if we know their secrets or compromising information about them. Vulnerability, in its most basic sense,…
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Would you enjoy the most wonderful music if you were deaf? Certainly not. Well, some people watch and even participate in bondage scenes, and yet, it is as if they were somewhere else, for they don’t seem to realize what’s going on. This is due to their lack of awareness. The Oxford Dictionary defines awareness…
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The Oxford Dictionary defines a deviation as “the action of departing from an established course or accepted standard.” Colloquially, people use it as a synonym for the unusual, the weird, and the alternative. More importantly, the sense of deviation is the essence of kink. People used to think about deviations as something abnormal, wrong, or…
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