Sexual Shibari

Shibari is not always sexual; we’ve already explained that in a previous article. It is an art form, a BDSM practice, a method for relaxation, and many other things. However, this doesn’t mean that it is something prudish and incompatible with sexual practices. Concurrently, there is such a thing as sexual Shibari. And here’s what you need to know about it:

First of all, as with any other practice, you cannot include Shibari in your sexual encounters without previous consent. Remember, keep things safe, sane, and consensual. Always. Having said that, it is important to find out beforehand how your partner feels about power dynamics in general and restraint in particular. Remember, not all the kinks are for everybody. We all have our favorites and others we dislike. So, make sure your partner is into bondage or, at least, feels curious about it.

Second, make things gradual. You can start by tying the wrists or the ankles and then move on to something more complex, like a chest harness or a rope dress. Don’t overwhelm your partner with the most extreme bonding practices.

Another thing is to get a lot of feedback. Take into consideration what your partner tells you about what they liked and what was uncomfortable for them. This will help you decide more accurately every time.

Be creative. Tying your partner’s wrists to the headboard is sexy, yes, but it’s also the most obvious choice. Sort of a cliché in itself. Therefore, make things different! Use your imagination. See every piece of your bedroom in a different light and look for something that’s exciting for both of you.

Finally, don’t just tie; play your character! Adding a narrative to rope games is a proven route for bedroom success. Make a character out of your bondage persona. You won’t regret it!