Consent

Consent should be the foundation of any relationship. Even in a non-sexual encounter, such as a Shibari scene, an informed decision to participate is absolutely necessary. This is the case especially when you haven’t known your partner for very long, but it also applies to long-time partners.

Never take anything for granted. Never assume that something can or cannot be done. It is better to double check with a question, rather than going ahead without asking. 

Remember that in any form of rope bondage there is a power dynamic. Moreover, partners in Shibari make themselves vulnerable, so it is important that they do so for a common, shared goal. Besides, people can change their attitudes during a certain period of time. So, what yesterday was appealing, might not be enjoyable today.

Consequently, before a Shibari scene, you should discuss the things and activities you want to include in it, and what you want to leave out. You should also share any safety concern or previous condition that might cause trouble. That way you will know that preparation has been done properly and an accident is less likely to happen.

It is very important to avoid any coercion. None of the participants should be bribed or pressured to participate in a scene. Remember: no means no. And, although you can negotiate, it is important to make sure that participants are willingly joining the scene. 

Be aware that consent is doubtful when a person is under the influence of drugs or alcohol. Therefore, a good advice is to avoid drugs and other substances at all costs during a Shibari scene. Not just because it can create consent problems, but because it might also make you prone to accidents and injuries.

Consent is one of the most important keywords in a Shibari scene.