Domination is not abuse. Undeniably, it might look abusive from the outside. However, those who practice such dynamics know that this is a myth that couldn’t be farther from the truth. Actually, domination is all about the sub’s wellbeing. It is the sub’s happiness that produces the greatest satisfaction in the dominant party. Wellness Domination…
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As usual, we begin with a disclaimer: there is actually no such thing as non-consent in kink. Partners should not participate in something if they have previously not agreed about it. There are, however, degrees of consent, and in that continuum, Consensual Non-Consent, or CNC, occupies one of the extreme positions. Domination can be as…
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First of all, a disclaimer: domination is not abuse. Domination is a consensual relation in which one of the parts agrees to act submissively and the other agrees to play a dominant role. Having said that, it is important to notice that, even though we usually think of domination as an act of physical power,…
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When it comes to domination, people usually think of someone all dressed in latex torturing someone in a dungeon. But that’s the most extreme example of domination. Light domination consists in establishing a domination dynamic in a couple, which is not very rough for either participant. For example, passionate kissing is vanilla. However, when one…
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“No Machos Allowed”, that’s my motto. I take gender issues very seriously. I mean, I really hate it when a man abuses a woman. And I think it all comes down to men who were educated to be machos, both around other men, and toward women. Now, if you saw my boyfriend Roger, you would…
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Shibari is not only a matter of ropes. There are many elements in a Shibari scene beyond tying – Emotions, for example, are intense and powerful in a Shibari scene. And you should understand how to handle them. The fact of playing top and bottom has intense emotional effects in the partners. For the top,…
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My name is David, and I’m a scholar. My speciality are folk tales and legends. I found a Shibari folk tale, and I would like to share it here: “This is the story of the boy Kinoko (mushroom). He had that nickname because he was very short. Kinoko’s mother, Yuri (lily), was a young widow,…
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