Many people think that feminism and Shibari are in opposition to each other. But this only because they have a serious misunderstanding of the essence and purpose of bondage. Shibari contributes in many ways to the empowerment of women. First of all, Shibari contributes to the tearing down of gender stereotypes. A true rigger is…
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Like many people, I had severe sleeping problems during the weeks of lockdown. Due to the pandemic, I had to temporarily shut all workshops and suspend all classes. Likewise, all exhibitions and festivals got canceled as well. In a word, I had a business that left me no income, and that kept me awake for…
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Shibari is a matter of touch. That’s the lesson I learned from Alan, the blind rigger. I’m a journalist, but not the kind you’re thinking of. My specialty is finance and international trade. Sounds quite boring, doesn’t it? Well, it is. That’s why I balance my life with a nice dose of kink. I’m into…
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Friction marks are unavoidable in Shibari. Actually, no matter how many soft ropes and delicate riggers you find; in the end, you will always get friction marks. And that’s ok. After all, life is like that, too. Stretch marks are also unavoidable, as well as gray hair. You get the idea. In other words, life…
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Untying myself won’t be easy. I‘m stuck. Moreover, I can’t move. Time goes by and every second is running against me. Either I find the strength to release myself or I’m doomed. Now, if I let panic take hold of me, I won’t be able to think clearly. And I need to think. So, I…
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I had to do it. I’m sorry. And yet, I don’t regret my decision. It’s not just a matter of safety. Shibari needs trust and I couldn’t trust her anymore. At first, I was willing to let her do anything she wanted. But when she started taking that crap, she began to make mistakes. And,…
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“Well, to be honest, this is no big deal for me.” I had just finished saying the words, when I saw Melinda’s eyes flooding with tears. We had just finished a Shibari scene. And, we felt exhausted. And I couldn’t lie anymore. It all began some weeks ago when Melinda told me she wanted us…
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“No Machos Allowed”, that’s my motto. I take gender issues very seriously. I mean, I really hate it when a man abuses a woman. And I think it all comes down to men who were educated to be machos, both around other men, and toward women. Now, if you saw my boyfriend Roger, you would…
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Shibari is not only a matter of ropes. There are many elements involved, beyond tying – Power, for example, is there, in the dynamic between top and bottom. And both of you should know how to handle it. The power dynamic in a Shibari scene is defined by two poles: domination and submission. And the…
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Shibari is not only a matter of ropes. There are many elements involved, beyond tying – Beauty, for example, can be achieved even in a modest Shibari scene. And you should understand how to create it. As any human activity, Shibari is capable of beauty. Moreover, since it is a practice that is emotionally charged…
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