A Lesson on Patience

I love Jill, I truly do. But, just like most people of her generation, she can’t keep her hands still! She wants everything now, right now. And if she doesn’t, she gets mad. This convinced me that she needed a lesson on patience, and I would give it to her through Shibari.

Shibari, as any bondage enthusiast knows, is not just about tying. There are many elements in bondage: skill, emotion, communication, power, not to mention its beauty and its relaxing effect. But this time, I was going to use it for yet another purpose.

Now, Jill has a certain taste for kink, and we have tried Shibari before, but on a very different context. So, it wasn´t very difficult to convince her. I tied her, as usual, and then I put a flower in front of her. Yes, a simple, boring flower that I keep in a flower pot by the window.

The first five minutes, of course, she was entertained by its beauty and its nice smell. But then boredome came in. Not ten full minutes had passed, when she asked me to talk to her or show her something else.

“No, Jill. Listen to me, I’m going to teach you a very valuable lesson. For the next 20 minutes, all you will do is to watch this flower. I want you to learn that not everything in life has to be immediate and rushed. Some things need time to grow and strengthen themselves. And I want you to understand that”.

At first, she got angry. She demanded to be untied. And I had to remind her that she had consented to be tied for as long as I wanted, and that twenty minutes were not such a long time. She gradually calmed down and, by making an effort, she agreed to repeat the same process the next day.

Two weeks later, something had changed in her. She was more capable to enjoy time. And her mood improved. And she would have never learned all this if it wasn’t for Shibari.

That’s how I gave her a lesson on patience.